Chapter 2 Self- Control
To be successful in life, you have to
fight the biggest struggle within yourself.
2.1
Introduction
Dear students, self-control is an
essential quality that allows us to control our emotions, behaviour, choices
and preferences for the accomplishment of our set goals. With self-restraint,
we can move towards our destination, our performance in school gets improved,
our interpersonal relationship ties get strengthened, our self-confidence
boosts up, our physical and mental health also improves. Once we set a limit
for each of our tasks according to our ability, we will surely succeed in
reaching our destination and it will not matter how slow our progress is or how
many times we have failed in our endeavours along the way.
If you want to be in charge of your habits and desires by
controlling yourself, here are some tips:
Identify your
shortcomings as well as strengths.
Keep a positive and
optimistic thinking.
Set your goals and make
plans for achieving your goals.
Apply self-discipline.
Make efforts to improve
your habits.
Forgive your mistakes
and move on.
Reward yourself for
your accomplishments.
Have the courage to
follow your unique interests and express your independent ideas.
Self-belief
and Self-control
ACTIVITY
Dear students, Let us perform an
activity to see how we can boost up our performance through self-belief and
self-control. To carry out this activity, take a sheet of paper and a small
book. Is it possible for a thin sheet of paper to hold a book? No, that is not
possible. What could be the reason for this? The sheet of paper is so weak that
it cannot support the weight of the book because it itself is not strong
enough. Will this be possible if the thin sheet of paper becomes powerful? Now
try to roll this thin sheet of paper like a tubular structure.
Try placing a small book on this
pipe-shaped sheet of paper. You will notice that the thin sheet of paper will
now successfully hold the book over it. As the sheet of paper became stronger,
it gained the ability to hold a book heavier than it. Similarly, we can also enhance
our self-confidence through repetitive practice and self-control that will
ultimately improve our abilities. If we boost up our self-confidence and be
able to control our emotions, anger, jealousy etc. and overcome our weaknesses,
then we will definitely accomplish success.
2.2 Most influential team of the day???
Dear students, divide your
classmates in two teams/groups.
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One student from the first team will
ask a question and then one student from the second team will not answer but
put another question.
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When the second student from the
first team will ask one more question, then the second student from the second
team will also raise a question.
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The third student from the first team
will put up a question and the third student from the second team will ask one
more question.
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Each time when a member of the team
will put up a question in response to a question, a star would be added to that
team's account.
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This activity will continue as long
as a member of the opposing team answers instead of asking a further question.
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In this way, the team with more stars
will win the title of "The most influential team" as the students in
that team have won by demonstrating self-control
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Questions
to be asked can be as simple as:
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What is your name?
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Who is your best
friend?
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Tell the name of your
district.
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In which country do you
live in?
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In which school do you
study?
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Tell the name of your
village/town/city.
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In which state do you
live?
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Name the Prime Minister
of your country.
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Who is your favourite
teacher?
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Which is your favourite
subject?
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Name your favourite
sport/game.
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Which is your favourite
food?
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Which is your favourite
colour?
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Which festival do you
like the most?
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Dear students, now divide your classmates in five teams.
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The students of the first team will
form a circle and start counting the numbers from 1-20. One student will start
counting by speaking one.
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But remember, the next number can be
spoken by any one of the students of the team. If two or more students speak a
number together, that team will be out of the activity.
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Similarly students from other teams
will also perform the activity. The team whose participants exercise the most
self-control will complete the count and will win the title of "The most
effective team of the day.”
2.3 Own "Self-checkup"
My name is
…………………………………….
My two good qualities are
1.……………………………………………………..
2…………………………………………………….
I am proud of myself
……………………………………………………..
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My future goals are
…………………………………………………
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My two weaknesses are
………………………………………………….
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What should be done?
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Situation |
What
do I do? (Tick) |
What
should I do? |
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My
good habits include: 1………………………. 2………………………. |
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I never noticed. ·
I always get compliments for these. ·
These make me proud of myself. ·
No one ever noticed. |
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I will pay more attention. ·
I will hone my talent through self-control. ·
I will further boost up my self- confidence through
regular practice. |
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My
bad habits include: 1……………………… 2…………………….. |
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I never paid attention. ·
I always get scolded for these. ·
These make me feel ashamed of myself. |
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I will focus more attention. ·
I will make efforts to further improve myself through
self-control. ·
I will build up my self- confidence through constant
practice. |
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When
someone scolds me…………. |
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I start arguing further. ·
I start weeping. ·
I get irritated. ·
I further commit mistakes deliberately. |
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I apologize for the mistake. ·
I promise never to repeat the mistake again. ·
When his/her anger dips down, I explain my position. |
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When
I am jealous of someone…… |
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I intensify him/her to carry out I try to improve
myself by something wrong. ·
I try to harm him/her. ·
I try to defame his/her image. |
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I try to improve myself by imitating his/her good
habits. ·
I can consult my teacher or parents. |
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When
someone's misconduct makes me angry.... |
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My conflict commences with him/her. ·
I start rebuking him/her. ·
I try to vent out my anger on him/her. ·
I stop interacting with him/her. |
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I humbly try to alter his/her attitude. ·
I try to find out the reason for his/her misconduct. ·
I discuss with an elder. |
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When
I am not ready to study and I am forced to do so…………. |
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I make efforts to disrupt the class discipline. ·
I exaggerate my classmates to join me. ·
I start to argue with the teacher. ·
I discontinue the assigned work and fabricate fake
excuses. |
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I try to overpower myself by self-control to focus
on my studies. ·
I try to give up my tendency of making false
excuses. ·
I set my life goals and aim at working diligently
for their accomplishment. |
2.4
Think and answer
1. Make a list of your
unique abilities and strengths.
2. Write five lines about “I
am proud of myself because”…………...
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3. Write a letter to
yourself outlining your strengths, flaws, fears and your future plans to
overcome these.
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4. Explain how self-control
in difficult situations leads towards a successful life.
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Special suggestions from the teacher to the student
